"Coming in to oneself is ultimately about coming home, to the place that - and to the person who - understands you, no explanation required. Love...remains the last great hope for solving America's complicated relationship with race. 'Not in a wishy-washy, cliched, love-will-conquer-all way. It's very hard to undo what's happened. But I think when you love somebody, really love somebody, you start to see the world through their eyes.'"